Help! I Need Love: 4 Reasons to Watch New Show for Single Moms on ABC Hosted by Paul C. Brunson – Moms 'N Charge®

Hey y’all! I am absolutely thrilled to share this news with you! If you’ve missed my posts all over social media, then you’ve missed the news about a new show for single moms coming to ABC THIS Saturday night! And what I’m truly excited about is that my bro, Paul C. Brunson is hosting this show. While Paul is well-known for being the first black matchmaker (and darn good and what he does), he is so much more than that! He is a mentor, entrepreneur, & television host. He is a husband, father, friend and overall great guy. I was first connected with Paul when I was writing for Black and Married With Kids (where I got to interview him and his beautiful wife, Jill and break the news about their second pregnancy). I found out about his Mentor Monday show (that I had the pleasure of being on) on Spreecast and then continued to follow him from there. Then he started doing his live event called We Start Up for Entrepreneurs and I got to collaborate with my girl, Ella Rucker to speak at that event. For as long as I’ve known Paul, I’ve known him to truly be the …

Source: Help! I Need Love: 4 Reasons to Watch New Show for Single Moms on ABC Hosted by Paul C. Brunson – Moms ‘N Charge®
While I haven’t written a lot about PCB on the site in a while, I’ve been working hard on ARCH, I still consider PCB a mentor and a person who found the time in a busy schedule to interview me and share my information at a critical time in my business.
I hadn’t seen this information about Paul’s new show which will air tomorrow on ABC. I’m writing this with a link to Moms N Charge and I’m sharing the most important information because every little bit helps. His pilot episode will air tomorrow and if you know anything at all about television Saturday night is an extremely difficult time slot to gain any traction. Here are the most important aspects you should know:

There are 4 ways to help:

1) Set your DVR or TIVO to record ABC May 27th at 10p ET (it will be listed as either 20/20 or Help! I Need Love). If you live in country that doesn’t get ABC, please download the app and watch that way.
2) Host a watch party! If you plan on hosting a launch party with 20 or more people, Paul will personally call in to thank you and everyone for attending. Please email if you plan to host a party.
3) Become an ambassador for the show! It will take less than an hour of your time and will be very helpful. Please follow this link to join us. We have an amazing leader in Kaywanda Lamb (The Winning Single Mom) and a great team ready to mobilize.
4) When sharing anywhere on social media: Please use #INeedLove and tag Paul and ABCNetworks. We want them to see how much we all stand behind and support this project!

That’s it y’all! Share the love and get ready to watch something incredible happen this Saturday night!

A few of my favorite things: Movie Quotes

Inspiration comes from many places, movies have had a strong impact in my life. I don’t go around imitating things I see on the screen… Anymore. However, Every now and then a quote will come from a movie and I have incorporated it into my life is philosophy.

Crimson Tide

Actually two of my favorite quotes came from this movie. This the-tony-scott-o-log-crimson-tide-351538movie starred two great actors, Denzel Washington and Gene Hackman. The United States was thrust into a conflict with Russia. A conflict that could have easily become World War III. Gene Hackman is Captain Frank Ramsey of the submarine the U.S.S Alabama. Denzel Washington Portrayed the new executive officer/second in command Lt. Commander Ron Hunter. The first quote came early in the movie just before the submarine submerged. Cpt. Ramsey handed Lt. Commander Hunter a cigar. During their discussion the captain was establishing his expectations. He then stated “I can’t save asses and I won’t abide kiss asses.”

That quote speaks volumes. When you’re in a leadership role, the worst thing a leader can do is throw his people under the bus to protect themselves. A leader should have the courage make a decision and standby it regardless of the outcome. He should also deliver orders from his upper management and present it as it as if it was his own decision, regardless to how unpopular it will be with his/her workers. Furthermore, a leader shouldn’t be a “yes man/woman”. If you know that something is not in the best interest of your people or the operation, you should speak up. When the shoe drops and the big boss learns that the outcome could have been different if you had opened your mouth, your butt is in the wringer, unless you successfully throw someone under the bus. Of course then your people will see you a kiss ass AND a save ass.

The second quote occurs a short time later. A fire breaks out in the galley. Lt. Commander Hunter goes to assist. During the fire, Capt. Ramsey initiates a firing drill. During the drill, Hunter continuously interrupts the Captain, insisting they attend to the fire and cancel the drill. As a result of the fire, one of the cooks has a heart attack and dies. Ramsey takes Hunter to his stateroom for a sit-down during which he says”

Those sailors out there are just boys… boys who are training to do a terrible and unthinkable thing, and if that ever occurs the only reassurance they’ll have that they’re doing the proper thing is gonna derive from their unqualified belief in the unified chain of command. That means we don’t question each other’s motives in front of the crew. It means we don’t undermine each other. It means in a missile drill, they hear your voice right after mine, without hesitation…

This quote, should be taken to heart by parents. Parents should be united in front of their children. When one parent gives the order, the other repeats it. If there is a problem, it should be worked out, when you’re not in their presence. That is the only to maintain a sound home. When children learn that one and be pitted against the other, disaster lurks.

Die Hard

We’ve all seen the first installment of the sage in which Police Lieutenant John McClain is always in the wrong place at the Die-Hard-Dwayne-Robinson-Al-Powell-Paul-Gleason-Reginald-VelJohnsonwrong time. My favorite from the movie came from Sgt. Al Powell portrayed by Reginald Vel Johnson. Powell was the first officer on the scene and had great insight on the situation. When the Deputy Police Chief Dewayne Robinson makes the scene, he goes into been there, done that, I know it all mode. He completely disregards Powell and his assessment. Robinson decides to send in the SWAT team. They turned on huge spotlights to blind the terrorist. When the lights came on, gunfire erupted. The know- it-all SWAT commander proclaimed, “It’s panic fire.” Powell responded, “They’re shooting at the lights.” At point the spotlights started blowing out. The Robinson the states as if he made a discovery, “They’re shooting at the lights.”

No one likes to hear,” I told you so”. Nevertheless, many times in my careers, I have forewarned superiors of things that were on the horizon. When my warnings come into fruition and they were disregarded, I will state,” They’re shooting at the lights.” until now, no one understood why I said that.

The Karate Kid II

Our beloved Mr. Myagi portrayed by the late Pat Morita, had so many insightful quotes. My most favorite quote came when he told Daniel, “From the very first karate lesson… Best way to avoid punch, no be there.”

Simply put, don’t walk into bad situations. Many times, we know that if we go somewhere, odds are something bad will happen. Whether it’s Beale Street, a club, or going to your grandmother’s house knowing that your crack head cousin who stole your watch will be there. It’s just best to avoid the situation.

Wyatt Earp

There’s really only one memorable quote in this movie in which Kevin Costner portrayed the legendary character. Dodge City, was lawless. Wyatt and his crew walk into a rowdy bar. He fires one round from his shotgun and announces, “My name is Wyatt it-all-ends-now1Earp… It all ends now.”

The foundation of my life’s philosophy is to be part of the solution not the problem. When you see that there is a problem at hand, take control and put it to bed. Too much time is spent on things that are allowed to fester and keep going. We really need a Wyatt Earp in Memphis. Not just for the crime problems we have. We need to put an end to silly decisions by our governing body, wasteful spending, and missed opportunities.

These are a few of my most favorite things. Next time, I’ll talk about my favorite movies. I’m talking about movies that no matter what, I will watch. Feel free to share your favorite quotes.

This Day in History


On August 4…

6702986142005 – Prime Minister Paul Martin announced that Michaëlle Jean will be Canada’s 27th and first black Governor General.
1985 – Dreamgirls closes after 1,522 performances
1984 – Prince’s “Purple Rain” album goes to #1 & stays #1 for 24 weeks
Carl Lewis wins gold medal in 100-meter dash at LA Summer                 Olympics
1972 – Arthur Bremer jailed for 63 years for shooting Alabama Gov
1971 – US launches 1st satellite into lunar orbit from manned spacecraft
1964 – Civil rights workers Michael Schwerner, Andrew Goodman &
James E Chaney, bodies discovered in an earthen Mississippi dam
1961 – The temperature in Spokane, Wa was 108°F
1956 – Elvis Presley releases “Hound Dog”
1st motorcycle rode over 200 mph (Wilhelm Herz-210 mph/338 kph)
1949 – NBL & NBAA merge into National Basketball Association
1944 – Anne Frank arrested in Amsterdam by German Security Police (Grüne Polizei) following a tip-off from an informer who was never identified
1914 – WWI: Germany declares war on Belgium; Britain declares war on Germany
US declares neutrality on the outbreak of WWI
1862 – US government collects its 1st income tax
1790 – US Coast Guard founded as Revenue Cutter Service
1666 – Hurricane hits Guadeloupe, Martinique & St Christopher; thousands die
1181 – Supernova seen in Cassiopia

Southpaw: Not Another Rocky Movie

As with all good things, my vacation was coming to an end. Despite the incident in Lafayette, LA, we decided to catch the movie Southpaw. We saw the preview, when we went to see Ted 2. We immediately thought from the dialogue, it was going to be another Rocky III. We were wrong.

images-4The story is set in New York City. Billy Hope (Jake Gyllenhall) is a boxer on top of the world.   Billy grew up in the foster system.   He met his wife, Maureen (Rachel McAdams) in the foster system and they have an adorable 10 year-old, Leila (Oona Laurence). His entourage consisted of his friends from the foster home too. He has a wonderful family, friends, and a 43-0 record. After his last fight, Maureen begged Billy to turn down a 3 fight $30 million deal and leave the fight game out of fear of him becoming punch drunk in the very near future. Billy’s fighting style, is all offensive. He never blocks punches; however, he has managed to remain undefeated. The only problem is that a boxer, Miguel Escobar (Miguel Gomez), wants to challenge him for the title. Despite calling Billy out at his post-fight press conference, Billy ignores him. A few days after the fight, Billy attends a charity event for images-7the foster home he, his wife, and friends grew up in. When leaving, Escobar challenges Billy again to fight. Maureen successfully convinces Billy to ignore him, until Escobar strikes a nerve by referring to Maureen as a “Bitch.” Billy and Escobar start fighting in the hotel lobby. Both entourages enter the fray. An errant bullet fired by someone in Escobar’s entourage strikes and ultimately kills Maureen.

Billy is now left with a 10 year-old girl and no direction. Maureen always handled everything. To make matters worse, Billy’s accountant informed him that his income was drying up. Billy’s manager, Jordan Mains (50 Cent), convinces him to sign the contract and fight in 8 weeks. Without Maureen there, Billy had no desire to fight and lost. Upset because his trainer stopped the fight, Billy assaults the referee and is suspended from boxing. Mains and his trainer go to Escobar’s team. Billy’s life continues to spiral out of control when his home, cars and other possessions are auctioned off and Leila is placed in foster care after a DUI and weapons possession arrest.

images-6Billy needed to get his life together if he was to get Leila back. He goes to a trainer, Tick Willis (Forrest Whittaker), to help him get back in the ring. After a great showing in an exhibition fight, Mains offers Billy the chance to win his title back from Escobar. With Leila back in his custody and Tick training him, Billy goes to Las Vegas to beat the man responsible for his wife’s death.

images-5This movie was well written and appropriately casted. The soundtrack rocks songs from 50 Cent, Eminem, and Bad Meets Evil.  Forrest Whittaker’s performance was above board as always. The young Oona Laurence’s (Leila) performance was very impressive. Her portrayal of a child losing her mother and lifestyle in the blink of an eye was wonderful. I haven’t heard this about any movie so far, but this is the “feel good” movie of the summer. I’ve got to come up with my own thing. Until then, I will borrow from Siskel and Ebert and give Southpaw two thumbs up. It may not garner attention from the Awards Academy; nevertheless, Southpaw is worth the trip to the movies.

Prince's Lovesexy – Unappreciated Art

51MBVGW47QLIn 1988, Prince gave us the gift of his tenth album, Lovesexy.  This album never broke the top 10 in the United States; however, it did reach gold status.  In Europe the album reached number 1 on their charts and reached platinum status.  One of the reasons this album did not do well in the United States, is that retailers objected to the album cover in which Prince posed nude with his legs strategically placed.  That coupled with over exaggerated plant stamen, many U.S. retailers would only sell it if it was wrapped in black.  Of course in Europe, nudity and sexuality are no big deal.  European commercials rival Girls Gone Wild videos. The album’s theme also sparked controversy.  Prince expresses his own faith in God and speaks of the battles between good and evil in his own artistic way.

The album(CD) cover, touts 9 songs.  However, the songs are connected to each other.  Therefore, when you pop in the CD, it shows as 1 song.  The end result… a 45 minute and 3 seconds pop/funk roller coaster ride.

7e4bb2c008a08a5e97098010.LThe album starts strong with the energetic I No followed by the popular single Alphabet Street.  If Prince intended for this to be played at a party, he gives you a cooling off period by cranking down the tempo with Glam Slam and Anna Stesia.  He injects the energy back into the CD with Dance On.  Prince applies the brakes and serenades you When 2 R in Love and I Wish U Heaven and you pull back into station with the mellow groove Positivity.

As with much of Prince’s genius, the message is missed due to the appearance of the messenger.  It’s ironic that people from other countries had more of an appreciation for music that addresses issues that they don’t necessarily pertain to them. Prince kicked off his 31 performance European Tour in Paris and then came to the United States. Perhaps due to the European’s overwhelming appreciation for his art.  My mother surprise me with tickets when Lovesexy made its 35th stop of the North American tour in Memphis, TN at the Mid-South Coliseum.  That was my second Prince concert.

My favorite tracks were Dance On and Positivity.   Dance On picked up where Sign O’ Times left off  addressing the social issues that bring our communities down.  This album came out during my senior year in high school; therefore, Positivity became my “never give up” anthem.  Even today when things get tough, I keep pushing so “Spooky Electric” won’t become my boss.

This throwback Thursday revisit Lovesexy.  You can listen to it free on Spotify.


Get To Know: Martin Russell

When I coached high school basketball, I always looked around for the tallest kids on campus. Working at an inner city school in San Diego, that also happened to be the most multi-cultural/racial school in the city, presented problems. Our school, Crawford High School, had incredible soccer, wrestling, and badmiton teams because of the abundance of Africans, Latinos and Asians, but our traditional sports teams, the ones dominated traditionally by Blacks had to work really hard and it didn’t help that there really weren’t any tall kids running around the campus. There were a few, but they liked soccer, not basketball. I remember one kid, a tall light skinned Black kid, that I asked to play and he responded that he didn’t play ball. I told him I could teach him and I basically wanted his size on the court. That kid never accepted and it was okay with me, because he was a funny kid. I remember him being this really quirky guy that didn’t stand out, he simply blended into whatever crowd he was around. That’s the way Crawford was, well most of the time. The students there were kind of their own rainbow coalition in the middle of a city where the poverty line is 70,000 dollars and most of the people in our area were no where close to making that kind of money.
This morning I ran across a post on Facebook, by that kid/man, Martin Russell. He is beginning work on a documentary and if this is any indication of what is to come… Get To Know Martin Russell. Watch this:

Fast and Furious 7: An Action Packed Tribute


April 3, 2015, The Fast and Furious franchise tied the Saw franchise for second place with their latest installment Fast and Furious 7 for movies with the most sequels.  Friday the 13th is number one. The biggest question was not whether or not the movie would live up to its previous movies. Everyone was waiting to see how they would incorporate the death of Paul Walker, who portrayed Brian Oconnor.  Walker died tragically in a single vehicle crash November 30, 2013, while the film was still in production.

images-1The movie starts out in a London Hospital.  Deckard Shaw(Jason Stedham) is standing over the body of his deceased brother, Owen(killed in Fast and Furious 6), vowing vengeance.  As Shaw leaves the morgue, you quickly learn that he is a force to be reckoned with by the scattered corpses of SWAT team members and others that he apparently killed to get in to see his brother.  It is apparent that Shaw is intent on killing Dominic Toretto(Vin Diesel) and his crew.

 images-3Toretto learns that Deckerd Shaw is a former British Special Forces operative that went rogue and is a virtual ghost.  The only to track him and neutralize him is to obtain a secret piece of technology from a person that is being held captive by madman Jakande (Djimon Hounsou).  During the daring rescue, they have to deal with Shaw and Jakande’s army.  Despite being successful  they still have to deal with Shaw and Jakande throughout the remainder movie.

29906170001_4148056813001_video-still-for-video-4148003562001The movie is filled comedy, action, and some serious drama. The writer(s) of Fast and Furious 7 has an imagination out of this world.  The action scenes were far fetched, yet exciting.  The vehicle sequences were unbelievable. The numerous fight scenes were magnificent displays of mixed martial arts and plain ol street fighting.  The movie travelled around the world and back to Los Angeles for the grand finale which not only had fast cars zipping through the streets. There was a heavily armed military helicopter and a kick ass predator drone.

imagesIn addition to the writer(s) wild imagination, he turned the movie into an excellent tribute to walker.      It was admirable they way the cast members said goodbye to their beloved friend and let you know they are considering part 8. There is no way of knowing which scenes were filmed before Paul Walker’s death and which were filmed afterwards.  The film editing was seamless.

The only negatives I had with the movie is that there was a little piracy.  Tyreese Gibson(Roman) had one or two Kevin Hart moments.  And the technology they fast-rock-fighting-1024x423were seeking to track Shaw was  stolen from another movie franchise. My daughter, Kennedye, is going to say I’m being petty, but I call it like I see it.  Cars were dropped from airplanes and there were numerous unsurvivable crashes that people walked away from, and I didn’t call B.S.  I did call B.S. when Deckerd went toe-to-toe with Hobbs(Dewayne “The Rock” Johnson). It just wasn’t plausible.

I still give the movie two thumbs up.  Grab a ticket and go see Fast and Furious 7. 

Get To Know: Lenny Kravitz

My favorite Lenny Kravitz album is 5. If you don’t have 5 buy it simply because of the song Mama. I can’t hear that song without crying. Yeah, I’m man enough to say that. While Lenny has always pushed the boundaries and I can consider him one of the best entertainers of my generation, this album goes back to his funk roots and the way this sounds, I think I’ll have to play this and the Black Keys at the same time when I run. Okay, you already know Mr. Kravitz, but it’s been a while. His upcoming album Black and White America, will release soon and if this video is any indication of what he’s dropping, I’m copping. Thanks to for keeping the updates rolling on all of these various projects.